Oh, gosh. You just made me laugh. I was scrolling down to find a post that didn't have any comments (and girl, you are POPULAR! You don't have any posts with no comments.) when I saw the one post you did a few weeks ago that said "Does anyone else get grumpy?" Oh my GOSH I laughed out LOUD! I was so grumpy for the last 2 days. I HATE that. grrr. No one likes a grumpy mommy, least of all the mommy, but yes, it does happen. Oh well. Now, the point of my comment. Yes, finally :D I wish I had your email address. But since I don't I'll just send this to you in a comment. Sorry it's lengthy. But if you want to email me, my dotcom hotmail email is iamkelbelle. So I just got this email and I thought of you. I really like Love&Logic, and these emails are nice reminders/tips. Just thought I'd pass it on. But, anyway, you're doing a great job.
This is the thing from Love&Logic, and I thought of you considering your last few emails, and some from last yr, with your own kids' struggles. I found this insightful, hope you do too:
As parents, all that we can do is up the odds that our kids will become happy and responsible. There are times when even the very best parents on the planet have kids who feel so hopeless that they want to end it all.
Kids committing a very common type of suicide, which I call "Slow Suicide," are often ignored or misunderstood. These are the youngsters who feel so bad about themselves that they engage in frequent high-risk and apathetic behaviors: *Reckless driving *Failing to wear their seat belts *Texting while driving *Drug and alcohol use *Sexual promiscuity *Sexually provocative texting and internet use *Self-destructive eating or dieting *Withdrawal *Refusing to attend school or complete schoolwork *Etc.
Too frequently, we as parents and professionals decide that children displaying these symptoms simply need more consequences. While it's surely true that they need to be held accountable for their choices, it's equally important that we address the underlying causes of their self-destructive behavior… most of which have to do with having a very fragile sense of self.
In his CD, Shaping Self-Concept, my father provides concrete strategies for helping kids feel good enough about themselves that they want to live…and excel. One strategy involves systematically focusing on their unique gifts. These strategies, combined with appropriate professional help, can make the difference between life and death. http://www.LoveandLogic.com/
(you can sign up for free emails like this there.)
Me: My name is Rebekah. I am a child of the most high God and the mother to six precious children, four of which I parent, one who went to be with Jesus at six weeks gestation, and the last one (sweet Tyrus) who I relinquished to adoption. This blog highlights all the good the bad and the ugly parts of being a single mom and also a birth mom. Truth be told, I'm just a sinner saved by grace, and I have made a lot of mistakes, but its all about counting the cost and moving on and making life better, because life is good....really really good.
Chelsea: My firstborn. She was born with a crooked nose and a personality that caught every ones attention. She is independent, and loving, and very girly. Give her some hairspray and some makeup and a pair of skinny jeans and she is happy. Thankfully her nose straightened out but the rest of her stayed the same...I'm so glad.
Victoria: My second born. Thoughtful, serious and beautiful are words that sum up Victoria since she was born. It took a lot to make her smile as a baby but when she did it lit up the room. Now that she is older she is still serious, but also very loving and likes to kiss my cheek all the time. She is sneaky yet likes to please. She loves animals and I wouldn't be surprised if she became an animal activist some day.
Matthew: My third born. Movin Movin Movin would describe Matt exactly. He is just a bundle full of energy. He doesn't like video games or TV, he would rather be outside throwing a football or riding his bike. He is all boy. He is my fix it kid. Give him a screw driver and he will figure it out.
Skyler: My fourth born. The baby of the family is exactly what little Sky is. I think he knows this and plays all of us for all we are worth. Trouble would be the word I would use to describe him. Don't leave him alone for a minute or he will be playing cars through a pile of flour in my living room. Even though he is into everything, he is such a sweetheart and we all love him very much.
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Oh, gosh. You just made me laugh. I was scrolling down to find a post that didn't have any comments (and girl, you are POPULAR! You don't have any posts with no comments.) when I saw the one post you did a few weeks ago that said "Does anyone else get grumpy?" Oh my GOSH I laughed out LOUD! I was so grumpy for the last 2 days. I HATE that. grrr. No one likes a grumpy mommy, least of all the mommy, but yes, it does happen. Oh well. Now, the point of my comment. Yes, finally :D I wish I had your email address. But since I don't I'll just send this to you in a comment. Sorry it's lengthy. But if you want to email me, my dotcom hotmail email is iamkelbelle. So I just got this email and I thought of you. I really like Love&Logic, and these emails are nice reminders/tips. Just thought I'd pass it on. But, anyway, you're doing a great job.
This is the thing from Love&Logic, and I thought of you considering your last few emails, and some from last yr, with your own kids' struggles. I found this insightful, hope you do too:
As parents, all that we can do is up the odds that our kids will become happy and responsible. There are times when even the very best parents on the planet have kids who feel so hopeless that they want to end it all.
Kids committing a very common type of suicide, which I call "Slow Suicide," are often ignored or misunderstood. These are the youngsters who feel so bad about themselves that they engage in frequent high-risk and apathetic behaviors:
*Reckless driving
*Failing to wear their seat belts
*Texting while driving
*Drug and alcohol use
*Sexual promiscuity
*Sexually provocative texting and internet use
*Self-destructive eating or dieting
*Withdrawal
*Refusing to attend school or complete schoolwork
*Etc.
Too frequently, we as parents and professionals decide that children displaying these symptoms simply need more consequences. While it's surely true that they need to be held accountable for their choices, it's equally important that we address the underlying causes of their self-destructive behavior… most of which have to do with having a very fragile sense of self.
In his CD, Shaping Self-Concept, my father provides concrete strategies for helping kids feel good enough about themselves that they want to live…and excel. One strategy involves systematically focusing on their unique gifts. These strategies, combined with appropriate professional help, can make the difference between life and death.
http://www.LoveandLogic.com/
(you can sign up for free emails like this there.)
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