Well, this does seem to be a hot topic so I thought I would address it. (see comments on the previous post)
What an awkward situation hugh? Up until this point me and Rebekah and Ben have enjoyed having just the three of us. We have enjoyed getting to know each other and looking forward to baby boys upcoming birth and not only that but the time we get to spend together as newly found friends and soon family. I think that it really mirrors our walk with Christ. We get comfortable with how our relationship with the Lord is and then something comes along and reeks havoc on our lives and then we are thrown into a tail spin and we either question our faith or we question God or we question ourselves. Regardless the situation everyone has been through it.
So I think that is where we were.....comfortable. All of a sudden the birth father walks in and it made the situation different. I am taking the liberty to put Rebekah's (the adoptive mom) words right here in my post so that it is not missed and because I couldn't have put it better. Her words this morning were:
"Since it seems to be a hot topic... :)
Ben and I are not blind to all the birth father's errors...as a matter-of-fact, I see a lot of what Rebekah sees.
We are moving forward with a "relationship" (I use that word lightly) because we believe it's what's best for baby boy.
We are choosing to view him through the eyes of God. And for us, that's easy...he hasn't hurt, cheated, or lied to us.
We think Rebekah is remarkable and handling things the same way we would...the hurt is too fresh in her mind to see him differently.
We pray God's complete healing for her heart everyday. Nothing or no one will ever replace the bond we have with her...and certainly not the birth father, who has just decided to show his face.
We love you, Rebekah!"
I couldn't have put it better, and it feels so good to read those words. I COMPLETELY stand beside Rebekah and Ben in there decision to build a relationship (whatever that might be) with the birth father. As angry as I am at him, he along with anyone else deserves a chance to be involved with this; however, he still will suffer the consequences. It sounds like we are being easy on him but if you really look at the situation, he is missing out on a lot. He WILL miss the birth, and he has missed watching baby boy grow in my belly, and he LOST his chance to be the father to his son. Its so sad that he made those choices and so those are his consequences. For the sake of the baby its best that he be involved, even though it will only be for a few weeks. So, I will get past my broken heart and God will heal my mind and I will be able to move on.....I do pray that Ron can do the same after all this is said and done. He has only hurt himself.
Ok, and my next post will be ALL about baby, because all this stuff is WAY to deep. LOL I have my doc appointment today at about two o'clock. I am also meeting with the case worker Amy to sign some of MY papers. How exciting!!! We are moving right along.